I have a co-worker who keeps inviting my husband and me to her place for dinner. The thing is, I don’t really like this person and have no desire to get to know her husband. I am very cordial at work and she has mistaken this for me wanting to be real friends with her. I don’t. Work is work, etc. I have turned her down at least ten times but she keeps asking. What can I do to make her stop? It’s annoying.
The answer is simple. Accept the dinner invitation, and then:
- Arrive thirty minutes early.
- Go through the medicine cabinet and rearrange everything so it is obvious that you did so. Help yourself to any fun medications.
- Every ten minutes say, “Doesn’t anyone else smell that? Is it mold?”
- When dinner is served, look down at your plate. After an uncomfortable pause ask, “What exactly is this?”
- Rearrange your food without eating a thing. Don’t explain.
- Ask your co-worker and her husband if they are cousins because they look so much alike.
- Burp. Repeatedly.
- Mid-way through the main course, tell the story about the video you saw of a heart transplant. Go into great detail.
- If the carpet or furniture is white or light, spill your Merlot.
- Stay until dawn.
That should do it. On the other hand, you could just grow a spine and tell your co-worker that you are never going to accept her invitation so she should stop asking. If that is too blunt, see a therapist so you can learn how to handle such an extreme annoyance as a dinner invitation.
— Evil Skippy
While this may not be an earth-shattering problem, I can see how it would be annoying in the workplace. It’s not like you can avoid the person, right? You’ve been saying no and that has not worked. If you have been making excuses (such as a prior commitment, sunspots or zombies) — stop. Just say no and don’t give a reason. If she still keeps asking, you either have to tell her directly to stop asking or accept the fact that you are going to be rejecting her invitations for the foreseeable future. You could talk to your supervisor if it is THAT annoying. However, put yourself in your supervisor’s place. How would you feel if someone interrupted your real work to tell you that they were annoyed by dinner invitations?
Yes, this is annoying but unless your co-worker is interfering with your ability to do your work, this one sounds like a “deal with it yourself situation” to me. Readers — what do you say?
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