I supervise a group of ten employees and am concerned that one of them may be giving unwanted romantic attention to another. No one has complained so I have stayed out of it. How far do things have to go before I should intervene?
Far enough for you to feel compelled to write to some blog guy who you’ve never met.
— Evil Skippy
You’re a supervisor, so supervise. As soon as you were concerned, you should have done something. By “something”, I do not mean an investigation or discipline. I mean you should have talked to the target of Romeo or Juliet’s affections and asked how things are going. If the target said “Fine”, you should have replied, “I’m glad. I thought I noticed some attention from a co-worker that you might not welcome and I wanted to make sure everything was all right. Is it really all right?” (Pay attention to the fact that I did not name the other co-worker in this question. There is no need to make your employee nervous about anyone if it turns out your concerns are mistaken.)
It’s not too late (I hope) to have that conversation, so talk to your employee at your earliest opportunity before the situation becomes more serious if indeed there is a problem. (I suspect there is some sort of problem since you have concerns – they came from somewhere). tunisia A huge mistake many supervisors make is waiting for a complaint rather than taking action when they suspect a workplace problem is brewing.
The bottom line? You are a supervisor and this is your job. So do it.
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