Every year, I send personal greeting cards to the co-workers in my department. One of my co-workers just put up a greeting card addressed to the entire department on our bulletin board. She never gave me anything personal. I feel kind of insulted. How would you go about bringing this woman’s rude behavior to her attention?
I wouldn’t, but it sounds like you plan to. That falls under the umbrella of what I like to call “A Really Terrible Idea”. Not everyone sends cards. Get over it. There is no 1-for-1 Rule here. Just because you send a card does not mean you can expect the same level of a return greeting – if any return greeting at all.
Move on. Change the subject. Happy holidays.
— Evil Skippy
I agree that you should not discuss this with your co-worker. If it bugs you so much that you can’t stop thinking about it, there’s something else in your life that probably needs attention. You’re focusing a lot of energy and stressing yourself out over something rather insignificant. It’s a breach of etiquette at worst. Unless the co-worker is freezing you out in other ways (making this part of her evil plan against you), I don’t think the card imbalance was an insult.
Do you know what is really stressful at work? When someone tries to strangle you. It happened to me. You can read all about it in The Near Death of Evil Skippy. Now that’s an insult.