I have worked at my job for three years. Last year, the company hired a new manager and I report to him. We have become friendly and even socialized once. I like him and can tell he likes me – but he told me that we can’t date because of the harassment policy. I’ve studied the policy and the law. Something is illegal harassment only if it is unwelcome and I welcome his invitation. I told him this but he still is afraid upper management will be mad at him if we go out. I told him I would sign an affidavit that says I want to date him so he does not need to worry. Am I correct that this removes the possibility of harassment because now the dating is welcome? I can show your response to my manager.
Please show this to your boss.
Dear Manager of Diane:
Run. Hide. You have a stalker.
— Evil Skippy
All your affidavit proves is that dating is not unwelcome to YOU. Leave your manager alone and start fantasizing about someone realistic. Like Ryan Gosling or Michael B. Jordan.
— Evil Skippy
You have not stated the harassment rule correctly. Conduct is not harassment only if it is welcome to BOTH parties. You clearly welcome some dating but if you stopped swooning and started thinking you’d see the tell tale signs that your manager does not really want to date you. He’s also made it clear to you that dating would be, as the legal experts say, a really stupid idea.
Focus on work when you are at work. You will be more happy and your boss won’t need to get a restraining order.
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